Locally, 39 percent of Hamilton County families are headed by a single mother. Of the children living with their mothers, 35 percent never see their father. And, 24 percent see their fathers less than once a month.
Introduction In no other area of family law do people become more polarized than in cases involving parental alienation PA and parental alienation syndrome PAS. And though volumes have been written on this subject, there still exists enormous confusion as to what the real problem is.
Because there is rarely enough accurate information to make an informed opinion, most bystanders as well as trained professionals eventually give up trying to figure out which parent in a high-conflict family is "right.
In high-conflict families, one or both parents may be guilty of allowing their anger toward the other parent to be expressed in a way that tragically involves their children. Because children are suggestible, many will eventually succumb to the relentless programming or "brainwashing" by an alienating parent toward a target parent.
A child with PAS becomes an alienator in their own right, independently creating their own scenarios of how horrible the target parent is. These imagined scenarios are often bizarre and bear little resemblance to the truth. A tremendous amount of community resources are used trying to stabilize these high-conflict families.
This can be somewhat unintentional. Parent education is often needed to teach these parents to have boundaries that protect their children from upsetting feelings.
Without such boundaries, parents are contributing to the psychological insecurity of their children. The suffering that this ugly behavior causes children and the target parent is severe. Many parents look to the court to stabilize what is a chaotic family system. These are families where there is little ability to use mediation to work out a reasonable parenting plan for their children.
In this category, PAS develops as children find the need to protect the angry, alienating parent. They become caught in a vicious cycle of trying to figure out how to be safe while also sorting through the demonizing attacks made toward the target parent. When parental alienation is severe enough, children have no choice but to align with the disturbed parent against the target parent, thus destroying their relationship with the target parent.
These children no longer have free will or the ability to continue loving the target parent.
The focus of this article in on children who are being severely alienated or who are already experiencing PAS. Baker provides solid qualitative research using 40 adults who experienced PAS as children.
The subjects of the study reported five primary mechanisms that were used to manipulate their thoughts and feelings as children: Their dramatic justifications for their aberrant behaviors defy reason. Few people understand the psychological underpinnings of PA and why a parent would treat a child so badly.
They demonstrate egocentricity to a fault and exhibit bullying behavior. He suggests that their brain may be partially wired. He describes them as assuming that they are entitled to special treatment and expect others to take care of them, including their children. They are takers, not givers.
If they give something, the gift is likely to have strings attached. Individuals with these problems do not solve problems by being rational, but rather by escalating ordinary events into dramatic episodes. They have exaggerated mood swings. A person once revered and respected can suddenly become an object of hatred and contempt.
This black-and-white, highly polarized thinking is called "splitting and is typical of these types of personalities. They are unpredictable—one day loving and cooperative, and the next attacking ferociously.
They have no internal conflict, because they truly believe they are right. Like Teflon, nothing sticks to them. People comment, "How can they lie like that? How are they able to justify in their own mind any behavior, no matter how excessive?
They can be very convincing because they themselves are convinced! Now Sharon has to defend herself about being abusive, neglectful, and out of control. Jack managed to level the playing field by using projection.
Individuals using these tactics do not seem to have an observing ego or consciousness to witness their own mistakes.In addition, using the conceptual frameworks of family ecosystems and developmental theory, the relationships between the three types of parental indulgence (soft structure, overnurturance, and giving too much), economic stress, life stress, and life satisfaction were examined for .
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which might have manifested itself as delinquent behavior later in life. For both young men and women, delinquent behavior. Parental involvement in school is defined as parent reported participation at least once during the school year in attending a general school meeting; attending a scheduled meeting with their child’s teacher; attending a school event; or volunteering in the school or serving on a school committee.
Child Abuse and the Role of Parental Denial. Dr. Schwartz's Weblog By Allan Schwartz, LCSW, The vicious cycle of abuse is probably the major cause of domestic violence in the United States.
The Deleterious Effects Of Child Abuse ; Latest News. This parental figure plays an important role in a young child’s life. The absence of the parental figure can have a detrimental effect on the young child’s life as he or she becomes an adult.
Parents shape their children’s lives by modeling patterns of affect and behavior for them.